Intimacy and Relationship Coaching
We are wired for connection. For aliveness. For desire. But most of us were never taught how to get there.
Nobody showed us how to open to our own body, how to move through shame, or how to ask for what we actually need. So we shut things down. We go through the motions. We tell ourselves this is just how it is. It isn't.
What I've come to understand — after 20 years of this work — is that intimacy with another person tends to follow intimacy with yourself. With your own body, your own desire, and what you actually need.
If something in your intimate life feels flat, stuck, disconnected or quietly painful — that feeling is real. And it's worth bringing into the room.
The people I work with come with all kinds of things.
Some have lost the spark — in their body, in themselves — and can't quite locate when it happened or how to get it back. Some are carrying shame around desire, pleasure or sexuality that has followed them for years, quietly holding themselves back from what they actually want. Some want to go deeper with their partner, or keep landing in the same patterns single and wonder why.
And some come in because they've watched Ian and me together and want what we have. That's one of my favourite reasons.
Others have already done bodywork with me and are ready to bring words and conversation to what their body has already started to release.
I work with men, women and non-binary people — single, partnered, somewhere in between.
Whatever brought you here, nothing is off limits in our sessions. Desire, pleasure, shame, fear, grief, anger, the things you've never said out loud — all of it is welcome.
Here's what I see happen when people do this work.
They get playful. They come alive in a way they'd forgotten was available to them. They start to understand what they actually need — and find they're more able to ask for it. They feel better in their body. They get excited about their life again.
Some rekindle something in a long relationship, or finally find their voice after years of going along with things. Others step into a confidence — turned on, self-expressed, genuinely themselves — it surprises them.
And sometimes the work brings a different kind of clarity. One that's harder, but more important. I've worked with people who came in very much in their head — circling the same thoughts, unable to land anywhere. The work is about getting out of the head and into the gut. Into what you actually know. And when that happens, things become surprisingly clear.
One client came in hoping to find a way forward in her relationship. Through the session she dropped out of her analytical mind and into her body — and what she found there was a quiet, certain knowing she hadn't been able to access before. She left with clarity. That kind of clarity takes courage to follow. But it's always worth it.
Whatever the work brings up — joy, grief, revelation, relief — it moves you back toward your own truth. That's always where we're headed.
The Somatica Method
The approach I use is called Somatica — a leading edge somatic relationship and intimacy coaching method developed in the USA. There are very few Somatica practitioners in Australia — it is still relatively unknown here. I trained extensively through the Somatica Institute over 18 months, completing my advanced certification in 2024 — plenty of late nights given the time difference, worth every one of them.
It's not just talk therapy. It works with what the body is actually experiencing — the held breath, the braced chest, the pull towards or away. It is trauma informed, which means we move gently and at your pace, never pushing past what you're ready for.
At the heart of Somatica is the concept of core desires — the deep, specific things each of us needs to feel truly alive in intimacy, in relationship and in life.
These aren't generic. They're uniquely yours. And understanding them — including how they were shaped by early experiences and childhood patterns — is one of the most illuminating things you can do. A lot of things suddenly make more sense.
The method also works with gently activating erotic energy in the body, and with understanding your erotic mind — what turns you on, what shuts you down, and why. Sometimes we use role play, not in a theatrical sense but as a practical tool — so you actually get to practise asking for what you want, expressing a boundary, or receiving something you've been afraid to receive. The body learns by doing. Somatica knows that.
Combined with my 16 years of somatic bodywork, trauma release and energy healing, what I bring to this coaching work is genuinely layered. We're not just having a conversation. We're working at every level where patterns live.
Sometimes during a session I'll tune into your energy field directly — sensing what's present, what's blocked, what you might be disconnected from. I'll share what I notice. It doesn't happen in every session, but when it does it can open something that words alone couldn't reach.
Trust Yourself
Here's what I know after years of doing this work — you already sense what needs to shift. You've known for a while. The question isn't whether something needs to change. The question is whether you're ready to trust that knowing and do something about it.
That's where I come in.
Working Together
Coaching sessions are 1:1, held online — which means wherever you are in Australia, or beyond, we can work together.
Single Session $195 — 1 hour 15 minutes
For when you have something specific to work through, or you want to experience the work before committing to a package.
Package of 4 Sessions $700 — 1 hour 15 minutes each
Weekly or fortnightly, tailored entirely to you. Four sessions gives us the depth and continuity to work through the layers — not just what's presenting on the surface, but what's underneath it.
I love our sessions, you are so caring and open and I feel I can say anything to you and you see me and hear me. I got so much from today. I feel clearer and have more trust that everything will work out.
Nyree
What a Session Looks Like
Sessions are 1:1, held online currently. They are conversational, embodied and completely confidential. We go at your pace. Nothing is pushed. Everything is possible.
If you're not sure where to start, a complimentary 15 minute call is the easiest first step — we can talk through what you feel and what might serve you best.
If you're curious about doing this work alongside a partner, or in a group setting, Ian and I also run The Love, Sex and Power Lab — a 7 week online course for anyone to own their power in relationships
→ Find out more under Courses
At the end of my coaching session with Tia I was feeling such a great sense of relief. I gave myself permission to be who I am meant to be in all areas of my life.
Belinda B